The Wilderness Gap
The distance between who you think you are and who the people closest to you actually experience. Most leaders never measure it. That's precisely why it widens.
Free. Results on screen in about four minutes, with the written version sent to your inbox.
The premise
There are three of you. The one you believe you are. The one your team experiences. And the one your family lives with. The space between them is your Wilderness Gap.
Nobody drifts on purpose. A gap opens one reasonable trade-off at a time, and because every single one of them made sense, the total never gets audited. This is the audit.
The method
Four dimensions, eight questions
Each question puts you in an ordinary moment and asks what actually happens, not what you intend. Your answers score across four dimensions. The total is your gap, and the widest dimension is where it concentrates.
01
Presence
Whether you are in the room when you are in the room, or still running the day in your head.
02
Alignment
The match between the three things you say matter most and where last week's hours actually went.
03
Reflection
Whether honest feedback still reaches you, or the people around you have quietly stopped offering it.
04
Legacy
How deliberately you are building at home compared with how deliberately you build at work.
Three vantage points, one leader
See the drift
The wider the offset between these three, the more energy you're spending holding a self-image the people around you don't recognize.
Why measure it
You can't close a gap
you refuse to see.
High-performing leaders are experts at self-assessment that flatters. The questions here are built to bypass that. They do not ask what you value, they ask what happened on Tuesday, because intent is easy to report and behavior is not.
It isn't a personality quiz or a scorecard to win. It's a mirror, sized to the terrain. What you do with what it shows you is where the real work begins — usually in the desert.
- Free, and genuinely yours — eight questions, your profile on screen in about four minutes, and the written version in your inbox to keep.
- Research-grounded — built on frameworks published in three FT Top-40 journals.
- Goes deeper inside a program — clients complete the multi-vantage version, which adds structured input from the people who work and live with you.
- A starting line — John reads your profile before your calibration call, so the conversation starts where you actually are.
His credibility as a guide, outdoorsman, and experience designer is impeccable… a stellar group of husbands and fathers who, as it turns out, struggle with many of the same things I do.Jason — Executive Coach
Knowing the number
is not the work.
Your profile tells you where the gap sits. Closing it is a coaching program, and it starts with a calibration call where John tells you honestly which one fits, or whether this is even the right season for it.